Saturday, August 25, 2012

Our Attitudes, Actions & Behaviours Can 'Become Us'.

You are centre stage ... Lights, Camera, Action! (Or Reaction?) 

Imagine this scenario.  When prompted by another person in this seemingly interactive dynamic, you speak.  You have done your part.  But it is with, in turns, a monotone that signifies your disinterest, and a bitterness that exemplifies your attitude that the world is unfair.  Your arms are crossed upon your chest.  You appear to be bracing yourself against the cold; to others, you appear closed to the world around you.  The baseball cap adorning your head casts a broad shadow over your eyes, which some would suggest are the windows to your soul.  You are leaning away, seemingly deliberate in your determination to increase the distance between you.

But this is not a stage performance; it is an interview.  Perhaps my example is a little over the top in terms of the bad signals displayed, but sometimes, we are not sufficiently aware of how our body language and voice can raise red flags within the minds of others.  Sometimes life is tough; we may choose to take it out on those around us, consciously or unconsciously.  Before we know it, especially during life's 'extended' down moments, we may start to integrate behaviours and attitudes that are counter-productive to our job search, employment success, and overall well-being.   We literally perpetuate and feed upon negativism until it 'becomes us'.

They say it can take, roughly speaking, from a month to several months to break away from or form a habit, either good or bad.  So the more we nourish negative behaviour over time, we are at risk of it becoming habitual within our lives.  Even if we are feeling down, a more constructive approach would be to feed positivity, even if at first we don't necessarily feel upbeat.  Flash a smile. Laugh a little. Sit up straight. Loose the hat. Flex your voice tone.  It may start out feeling rather like a role play, but after a while, this too may 'become us'.  And it is certainly much more attractive to those with whom we interact.

A philosophical quote by Mahatma Ghandi expresses this rationale in a beautiful way:

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”

Do you see the glass as half empty or half full?  This is a common phrase; perhaps even an overused phrase.  But it is still a phrase with merit, and perhaps that is why it has withstood the test of time.  During your networking endeavours, in an interview, and on the job, ensure your glass is at least half full, and of course, that may encourage others to top it to the brim upon communicating with you. Better though is if you work on filling it to the brim yourself!  Create your own destiny with the help of others; but don't wait for or expect others to do it for you!


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Catherine Stewart-Mott; Forward Momentum Services

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